Archive for November, 2005

Who would’ve guessed?

Tuesday, November 29th, 2005

Who would’ve guessed?

The cute yemeni dude arrived last sunday.

Not for me, but for a new go at his unknown future in perhaps… the lovely land called good old Kuala Lumpur.

I guess everybody deserves a second go at their chances of getting another education, or overseas experience, or job opportunity. This is the case with Attas, and i wish him all the best in his future undertakings….

Its funny how ex-boyfriends can become automatically a different person to you altogether. And its funny how romantic attachements that were once there a year ago feels like nothing today. It amazes me how people can just move on and not having to actually act like nothing happened, but thats actually exactly how they really feel. How i feel. Like feelingless.

Really…. who would’ve guessed?

The guy who i waited for months to return, in a hindi-like relationship, the faraway land where rain does not fall and desert storms are a fun occasion… i missed him like i miss the rain…. and i waited and hoped and was so damn focused… but today… when he is finally here…. it just does not mean anything anymore.

Everything that i waited for has turned into something i have delicately placed into my book of cherished memories.

It just doesn’t matter anymore because i have moved on so fast, have taken the Concorde instead of the minibus.

So fast, just like the desert storm itself, the events turned into happenings and i flipped the calendar, turn over new months, new chapters of my life and new beginnings, and end up with a bunch of new people. And an entirely new relationship that promises something bigger, better and rather, perhaps sweeter.

And about the past…. all i can do about it is to reminisce it, laugh and cry and perhaps…. this will all become a stimulating content to the book that i shall write one day. Yeah, just something to write about.

Second thoughts

Friday, November 25th, 2005

I’m having second thoughts…….

On work….. I’m beginning to really really enjoy it after all…

On some people who i used to have the utmost respect for…. now are ultimate jerks….

On money…. that it is not the root of all evil but the cure of all pains…

On clothes…. that nobody defines officewear anymore….

On love…. that true love is bull and practicality is the way to go….

On blogging…. its not just a place to get back at others on a free press basis, but a platform to declare the depth of one’s faith and etc. ….

When some had it easy

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2005

I think one of the things i will always remember in life would be my job interviews to land on my first real job- in Proton.

Some people had it easy…. being driven, or drove themselves to their first job interviews. Or perhaps they never had to be interviewed at all.

The thing i remembered and it just sticks to my brain was not the moment of being interviewed… because being the debater that i was… and still very much am… any debate in IIUM was a lot tougher than any of those interviews….

My job hunting days started 6 months before i graduated, because i was paranoid about the level of unemployment i read in the news everyday… and because i was the impatient person i still am today. I wanted things to move fast, i was proactive and so decisive and opiniated and believed in creating my own destiny. I was ever so willing to end my uni days and start a new life with my own paycheck and a brand new beginning.

My parents were not encouraging me to step into the corporate wolrd, because they are of conservative old fashion standards where girls become teachers because they need to make time for the family. I believe in the notion that teachers dont make enough money in Malaysia because the govt gobbles all the money to make long meetings-cum-vacation-getaway for govt servants in Langkawi.

So my parents didn’t know much about what i was getting interviewed for, and they were never encouraging. Some parents would be overjoyed to know that their child is getting an interview with the no. 1 car manufacturer in the country, but mine was less enthusiastic. They were skeptical and gave no words of encouragement. The only thing i got was- be careful when you deal with a Malay company, you will end up just like them. With those words in mind, i battled my own war.

Again, Attas, and my soulmates for life- Radin, Lily, Era, Raihan, Zila and all became the people who encouraged me and trusted in me. With that baton, i found the courage to venture on my own because i know that i was never really alone.

I remember the time when i had to travel by the bus to get to the LRT station and take the train to the Komuter and take that Komuter to a ghetto in Shah Alam and take a freaking taxi (RM10 one way) to the Proton Plant. And RM10 was a big deal for me for a 15 minute drive because when you are a student, you practically live below the poverty level. I had to do that four times. And the same route to get back to Gombak, where i was studying in IIUM.

On the day i learned i passed all three interviews, Proton called me for a medical checkup and it was scheduled no later than 8.30am. How the heck was i gonna pull that…?

But i believe that in times of perish, God sends you an angel that made all the impossible… very much possible. And at that time, a Saudi Arabian prince was my saviour.

I was told to wait for the bus at 6am, which means i had to get up ay 5.30am. Imagine IIUM hostel and the stories you’ve heard about it. I did not dare to bathe alone, so i made my roomate wait outside my bathroom door as i scrubbed myself clean.

There were dogs running around the new hostel ground so i didnt dare walk to the hostel gate, so my roomate again sent me on a motorbike across the huge hostel ground and to the bustop, where Attas was waiting, at 6am. I had not been on a bike for 10 years, but on that very morning, i broke that record.

We were the only ones at the bustop, and there were no buses. A taxi was passing by and we took it because we did not want to be late.

Two and a half hours later, we arrived on time for me to have my medical checkup. I passed it, and the rest is history.

When some had it easy and could hardly recall how their journey went, i know i shall remember mine as long as i live. It was that determination that kept me going and made me hold on to whatever i have and not take it for granted.

So when some say i had it easy, i know i did not.

Clueless

Tuesday, November 22nd, 2005

I came across a Jobstreet ad that made me wonder…

A sad realization. I’m at the stage of my life where i don’t quite know where its heading because i have rather stopped directing the sails.

If you’re a Mac enthusiast, you will know that Steve Jobs said this- (p/s: I’m no Mac enthusiast either, but i happen to have an admirer who’s in a really good university and he forwards me emails of intellectual discussions and speeches)

Steve said: "Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehowconnect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut,
destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and
it has made all the difference in my life
."

He went on saying:

"I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn’t been fired
from Apple. It was awful tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed
it. Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick. Don’t lose faith.
I’m convinced that the only thing that kept me going was that I loved what
I did. You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work
as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your
life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is
great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If
you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters
of the heart, you’ll know when you find it. And, like any great
relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on. So keep
looking until you find it. Don’t settle."

When i started my life in Proton, i trusted the position that i was getting myself into. That i have started a newfound journey. That i was gonna be responsible for the happiness and unhappiness that will emerge. Because Proton never found me. I looked for it, and i directed my sails towards it. And that i was gonna make the best of things, but that does not mean that i will stop thinking, and sailing, and sailing.

But, i have always said this to myself- ‘but this is where you are, so live the moment, like a moment of being onstage’.

But i knew its only the beginning. A step into a new world of what ifs and why nots and many unsolved mysteries.

Today, i’m still at it. Trusting my gut. And still hasn’t settled.

I think i’m looking for something more. Something contented. Something passionate. I have not found it. I am still looking.

Steve said, you have to do what you love. Partly, i am doing what i love, but i’m not doing what i love best.

I think i know what i love, but i’m not sure whether doing that would entirely make me contented.

But, i know i will find it… one fine day.

The Pajama Party

Monday, November 21st, 2005

It started with an F1 on a striking Gen2 from Taman Tun to Shah Alam top pick up Mas from her luxurious Ulu Subang Jaya apartment. As usual, Radin and i got lost and ended up at a ghetto instead. When we finally found Mas, it was already 9.05pm, and the Exorcism of Emily Rose starts at 9.20pm…. how the hell do we make it to O.U. in time?

But i believe with great determination and placing extra strength on my car’s brakes and accelerator will do us good. Oh yeah, and on the lookout for cops. I stepped on the paddle with two screaming girls shrieking that they were not married yet and they have not tasted the better part of life yet….. so please let them live through the ride…..

We arrived O.U. in miraculously 15 minutes, raced towards the cinema… Radin was panting because she was wearing pink pointy mules (trying really hard to look like the model from Cosmo), i was like always… the one who ran in front but lost my way anyway….

Looking like 3 teenage spoiled brats running in a shopping complex without any shame (thye hell i care, if we can get from Hicom Industrial Estate to here in 15 minutes, i’d make sure we get to watch the movue in time)…. and so we did. As we laid our trembling asses on the cinema seats (with Radin toppling over Mas), we were out of breath… and Emily started. Just in the nick of time!!! But the three of us sounded like women in labour pain, thanks to all of that running…. pretty embarassing, but hell i care………

The movie was gory. I could not get the images outta my head still until today… and i swear i will never live in a room or house all alone…..

Next was to feed ourselves. Makbul the Mamak Stall was a good option since its really near home. But the waiters were lousy. Its always either theyre always dreaming away or the never bathe and had a big B.O. problem. One of them got really interested in radin, but thats only normal coz Radin attracts single male from the Indian subcontinent all the time.

We were talking about Emily and that led on to work…. and bitchin’ about our boyfriends and how we think we are far more superior than our boyfriends and life should always stay that way…. and it led on to conversations about men…. about this guy, Zuree at our offce and we think he’s damn hot but had a height problem…. then Zuree showed up and it was like a dream come true…. but he had a problem with my obsession with the legendary Pink Panther, so i found that a rather serious issue….. a height problem plus a problem with Pink … nah, i leave it to Mas and Radin to adore him…..

When we got home, we changed into our PJs and logged on the net. Since we have wi-fi at my house now, we were trying hard to turn the place into a Starbucks. Didnt work, since nobody wanted coffee coz nobody wanted to wake up at 3am like Emily.

My room looked like a brothel house as three gilrs huddled together in a small unorganized room. (My maid wasn’t around to re-organize things).

Radin slept and snored immediately. Mas was doing a net search on hot single men. I was playing with Snowy and trying to figure out how to make my cat live longer.

I won the best pajama category coz i was wearing Pink Panther pjs. Mas and Radin became Proton patriotic as i handed them free Proton tshirts and shrunken pants.

We went to sleep before 3am because everybosy was paranoid about what happened to Emily.

Rm_1 My enchanted room- messy and spontaneous

Rm_3 Mas searching for single hot men on the net

Rm_4 My award winning pajama

Rm_5 A brothel with internet access

Rm_6 Radin zzzz